Let Life Happen – It’s Okay

Life Happens

For the longest time I spent hours trying to plan out the details of my day.  I bought a planner, I had a palm pilot, I used my cellphone, but after awhile I realized that all this planning wasn’t matching up to what was happening. Does that sound like you? Does this mean that you’re a failure or you can’t be successful?  For a while my subconscious liked to tell me it was, but some recent reading in the book Start! by Jon Acuff I learned something!

“We want to plan the road to awesome… We want to detail every step before we take a single one… But when we do that, when we squeeze our lives and purposes that tightly, we eliminate any room for surprises.”

If you are anything like me, your jaw just hit the floor, you have a 10 year plan on the wall, you know what your job looks like, and your life is a very simple and easy to follow plan, but it isn’t working.  The fact of the matter is that you are not alone, nor are you the minority!

It’s Okay to Plan, But Avoid Stress

If you are at a point where you plan things out so extensivley, that when something falls through you under under extreme stress, it’s time to revaluate what you are doing!  Isn’t planning supposed to make life better and easier?  When you can’t get through your whole to-do list, or you miss an appointment, do you feel better?  Probably not!  Now I want to put a BIG disclaimer here, I still use a planner, I still make to-do lists, but I am no longer micromanaging my time.  When you know what and where you should be every second of the day, life get’s tedious and loses the spark!

Embrace your Humanity

I don’t know anything that feels greater than realizing that you are human and that you make mistakes and accepting that.  Step back and tell yourself, “You know what, I’m not perfect – but that’s perfectly okay!”  When you finally realize that there will always be more to do, always be one more item on the list, one more dream you are free to keep working towards it’s a liberating feeling.  Learn to love the process and not the end result.

Wait WHAT?

Sorry, I know I got a little esoteric there but I wanted you to see something.  The path to greatness is one that can not simply be walked with map in hand – or iPhone GPS if your sense of direction is like mine haha!  You have to walk the path and take in your surroundings.  The most successful people don’t learn what they know because they went from point A to point B.  The successful people in the world realize that their failures and there sucesses are just road markers on the path to greatness.

Are you Ready to Let Life Happen

You have to let life happen and stop being SO worried about every detail that you miss what’s happening around you.  I am not saying ditch the calendars, planners, and to-do lists.  Shoot I have all three!  But what I am saying is start using them to advance yourself, not stress and worry yourself.   I will leave you with a closing thought:

Inspire greatness in yourself and others, but don’t plan it.  No man plans to change the world, but rathers plans to change himself and the world follows suit.

Until Next Time

Zach Spuckler

How to Wake Up Earlier

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So, a couple of days ago I posted on my Facebook Page about how I was 100% not a morning person and how this was causing me some issues.  I don’t know about you, but after a long day I don’t want to work on a lot of things, I want to decompress and unwind before I head off to bed.  It would be easier to wake up earlier and tackle my day – if waking up was easy!

I decided to do some research and gather up a few ideas that have been working for me in the past few weeks!

Have a Glass of Water or a Water Bottle Waiting

This is the one that I was most skeptical about, but it actually ended up working!  Have a glass of water sitting by your alarm clock and when it goes off – drink the entire glass of water.

 It actually serves a couple of purposes, first when you sleep you tend to be come more dehydrated that you are naturally and this water helps to restore the balance.  Additionally (and I still don’t fully understand why, but let’s not question what works) it helps to give you a little more extra energy first thing in the morning!

 Turn Those Lights On!

When I first wake up in the morning, I am like a vampire.  I will do anything that I can to avoid the light, but I have recently learned that facing the light may actually make the morning easier to conquer!

 There is a primitive part of our brain that associates the light with daytime, releasing chemicals to help us wake up.  Conversely, in the dark the brain has a different set of chemicals and processes that work to help you sleep.  If you are fumbling in the dark first thing in the morning, turn on the light and get ready to take on the day – your brain will do the grunt work.

Get Enough Sleep

 I will be the first to admit that I don’t have the best sleeping habits and that I often go to bed to late, or wake up to early, cutting into important sleep time.  As an adult you should be getting 7-8 hours of sleep a day, which can seem like a lot.

 For those that think that that is too much time spent sleeping, I pose the following question:

  When you’re exhausted during your day – because you didn’t get enough sleep – are you comparably productive to when you are fully rested and awake?

Instead of focusing on the time you have to spend sleeping focus on the level of productivity that you can achieve if you instead spent that time in a well-rested and productive state.

 If you are still fighting the alarm clock, stop stressing and try out a few of these tips!  Using these tips I was able to get up earlier and get this entire message done over an hour before I am usually up!  If you really try and you really want it, it is possible!

“Everyday, think as you wake up, ‘today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” –Dalai Lama 

Are You Showing Up?

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Today while reading through some quotes for inspiration, I stumbled upon the quote that you see above.  I really had to think about it for a few minutes in order to fully digest what it was saying.

About a week ago a shot a brief Instagram video sharing that if you don’t want to workout out the best thing you can do is just start the workout no matter what – starting is the hardest part.  After combining my thoughts from that video with this quote, I have to ask a very serious question of myself and of you!

Are you showing up, or are you just acting like your showing up?

I really spent some time thinking, what is so special about showing up, but then I realized something.  Showing up with the right attitude is the key!  Anyone can go through the motions but showing up isn’t just physical!  Are you coming to the table with the right attitude or are you simple showing up for the sake of showing up.

I bet you thought this was going to be an article about why you need to do things even when their tough, and it is.  But it is also about why you need to have the right attitude when you show up – it’s about attitude AND perseverance.

As I was contemplating how to share this idea with you, I came across the perfect example.  In The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz there is a story of a man with one arm who could out golf most two armed players.  I’m no golfing expert, but I was still pretty impressed with that story.  What was more impressive is what he had to say when he was asked about how he got so good at golf:

“The right attitude and one arm will beat the wrong attitude and two arms every time. “

WOW!  That’s all I could say. When I read this line, I was just blown away.  If someone with only one arm, could not only show up to practice their golf swing but maintain the right attitude, what was my excuse for – well anything!

Now, the great thing about attitude is that it really isn’t an apple to oranges type of thing.  While you may not be practicing golf, what excuses are you making for yourself about your bad attitude or the reasons your skipping workouts?  Next time you come up with a reason that you can’t, instead stop and think about someone worse off who already is!

When I start to struggle with my health, I have a few friends in a similar age group in a similar situation that are doing just fine!  When I struggle with my business, I look at industry leaders with more on their plate that I could imagine who own million dollar companies!

Remember there is always going to be someone showing up with the right attitude with the ability to make the same excuses. Are you going to make the excuses, or are you going to show up too?

 

Until Next Time

Zachary Spuckler

 

Do Something Scary

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In the past few months I have done things that have terrified me, I mean to the point where I was pacing back and forth wondering if I had made the right decision.   I have sat in my room for hours close to breaking down because I had such fear of what was to come.

In the past few months, I have made huge strides in my personal health goals, I have taken my business from zero to sustained earnings, and I have started growing in ways I never knew possible!  Seeing a connection?

I am not putting this up to brag or show you what I have going for me; I am sharing it because I want you to see the direct relationship between your where you are in regards to your comfort zone and your success!  Sometimes we hate the struggle so much that we don’t realize all the good things it’s bringing into our lives!

If We Didn’t Struggle We Wouldn’t Learn

Think back to when you were in school (or if you are in school right now), you probably had a subject that you hated and would go out of your way to avoid!  Even though you hated and struggled with that subject you still managed to make it through – even if it wasn’t the most graceful attempt – but how?

Everyday you would face this subject because in school ignoring something wouldn’t make it go away.  But the anxiety over tests, the pressure to study, and the assignments that you had to get done, allowed you to grow!  Think about it, the struggle throughout that class is what pushed you!  It may have sucked, you may have hated it, but when it was over you knew more about the subject and about yourself.

For example, I know from my physiology class how I learn best, I learned I need to rewrite things to learn, I need to study things over and over, and that my whiteboard is my best friend!  Now I apply these principles to my life and my business!  My mirror is covered in dry erase marker, I write A LOT of things down, and I watch things over and over again!

How Can I Recreate That Struggle? 

With Fear!

I am always scared to invest my money in something, it doesn’t matter if it’s a book, training, or paying extra for organic food.  Anytime my cash flow is varied, my heart races a hundred miles an hour.  That being said, when I spend money and embrace fear I have found that the things I accomplish are incredible.

I used to spend a lot of time telling people: if they want to see results, spend money on yourself, you don’t want to waste money so you’ll work harder.  Then I realized that it isn’t money that fuels people it’s the fear of wasting it – I have found that for many this theory applies incredibly well with money, but not for everyone.

You need to find something that you are scared of and let it push you to great heights.   If you don’t know what can “scare” you into your own struggle, try one of these:

  • If finances scare you, invest in yourself with a good personal development book, a workout program, or a healthy kitchen makeover – let the fear of wasted money push you
  • If commitment scares you, tell your best friend and close relatives what your goals are – let the fear of letting them down push you
  • If failure scares you, write down what will happen if you never try – let the fear of never giving yourself a chance push you
  • If healthy eating, nutrition, or fitness scare you, watch a documentary on health – let the fear of how you are mistreating your body push you

There is one catch…

Okay, so it seems pretty simple right? Embrace fear and you can do anything!  Well there is a tiny catch that I should mention. The more you do something that was once scary, the less scary it becomes.  Think about the first time you drove, nerve-wrecking right? Now it’s second nature!

Over time you will adjust to your “fears” so you have to constantly adjust what you use to push yourself to new places.  For example, 2 years ago a $10 book was a big investment, now I have to spend a little more to let fear get me going!  As American Author Neal Donald Walsch wrote:

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

Take today as your ticket to life, it starts today and it starts with you!  My assignment for you, DO SOMETHING SCARY!

Until Next Time

Zach Spuckler

It’s Time to Get Back on the Horse

Get Back on the Horse

After writing about failure last week I felt that the best way to follow it up was to talk about what you need to do after you slip up, or after you falter in motivation.  Let’s face it it’s easy to say failure isn’t final but it’s hard to live in that mindset.

This past weekend I had a laundry list of work I wanted to get done, but I was sick, tired, and I didn’t get to all of it, but then I remembered something:

Tomorrow is a brand new day, and you can choose right now to make the most of it.

When we dwell on the past and the things we can’t or didn’t do we open ourselves up to self-criticism.  Think about it, how do you feel when you spend all day thinking about the “would’ve, could’ve, and should’ve”?   Do you feel great about the opportunity that tomorrow holds or do you find yourself dwelling on the past?

The best thing you can do for yourself when you fall of the horse is to focus on what you are going to do tomorrow to improve.  Focus on what you are going to do to make things better and make yourself a list of things you will get done, start giving yourself a mental makeover! 

 

How Can I Start my Mental Makeover?

This weekend I spoke with someone who said that they were having a hard time escaping their failures and being happy with the person they were, so I gave them a simple homework assignment that I am going to give to you.

Find a mirror in your home that you look at regularly and with a dry erase marker (or on a sticky note that you place on the mirror) write, “I Love Myself Unconditionally RIGHT NOW!”  Everyday when you look at this note in the mirror, you are going to say it out loud.  The more you tell yourself this, the more you believe it until you get to a point where it’s true!

Okay, so let me bring it back to where I started, if you want to be able to recover from failure and lack of motivation you need to have the right mental attitude, so you need to start adjusting your mindset now!  When you become a more positive person and you really start to believe in and love yourself, you find it easier to stop dwelling on your mistakes and start looking at the silver lining!

Take a moment today to reflect not on what you have done wrong, but instead on all the things you have a chance to do right.  When we cut ourselves some slack and being to truly love the person in the mirror we can grow to new heights and look past our failure into the promise of our future!